WHY WE HAVE BECOME INSENSITIVE?

Crime is increasing day by day. What happened in Guwahati embarrassed the whole nation. All of us are blaming the system, the police and the government but what about the people. It happened on a busy road with lots people walking by but no one responded to the endless pleas of that girl or her friends.

The 17-year-old girl, who is pursuing studies in fashion designing in the national capital, was attacked when she was returning home after celebrating the birthday of her friend, at a bar. The girl was subjected to assault and molestation for nearly half an hour before being rescued by some passers-by.

This could have been stopped the moment it started if people wouldn’t have been insensitive. This is not just the case of metros and big cities but small cities as well. Girls are kidnapped in broad daylight but no one speaks against it. You are not safe even with police. Government claims to have taken steps to curb this kind of hideous crimes but to no avail. Every girl or lady cannot go out with four bodyguards around her.

While travelling in public transit services we all encounter cases of eve teasing but hardly any one of us interferes. But when time comes to go to some candle march against increase in sexual crimes against women and girls we are the first one over there.

‘Prevention is better than cure’, you all must have heard this phrase. This is the case of rapes as well, they have to be prevented and not cured. If you stop eve teasing, raise your voice on time and force the law authorities to take steps on time, these cases will eliminate forever. Just remember, this time it was someone else molested on road, but next time it could be you or your daughter, sister, wife, mother or your friend.

THINK ABOUT IT!!!

IS REVEALING CLOTHES BEHIND INCREASE IN SEXUAL CRIMES

Among 35 megacities, Delhi reported 23.8 %( 404 out of 1,696) of total rape cases in 2009. This means one in every four rapes occurred in the national capital, according to the NCRB figures.

 But what exactly is the reason behind the increasing number of rape and molestation cases.

According to a common notion, girls and women provoke males to rape and molest them by wearing provocative clothes. Also Delhi Chief Minister Sheila Dixit and Andhra Pradesh DGP had said that the “revealing and provocative dresses of women” was a reason for the increase in rape cases in Delhi.

Against this remark Shweta Patra, an MNC employee says,” Rape is rarely a manifestation of erectile malfunction as some try to put it. In most cases rape   is a way of teaching one or two lesson to a woman. Since most visible way of a woman’s non conformance with prevalent social norm is her choice of clothes, they blame it on clothing. That is the reason, women working in MNC’s choose to wear sari even in office, when in-laws comes to home-stay, or else they will be the butt of non-stop sarcasm at home. If women skin visibility was the sole reason, then why sari over any dress? Sari reveals much more skin after all.”

The empowerment of choice and spirit of liberty gets on to the nerve of people like Mr. DGP, who believes it is little too much of women liberty thing and they need a lesson, either by sermon, or a rape.   “Provocative clothing is a reason for increasing number of rapes”, seems to be the common opinion of many people, which off course is terribly wrong.

Many interviews with rapists (convicted ones in jails and in police interrogations) and interviews with psychologists tells very reasonably and logically that a rape is not committed on the spur of the moment because of sexual arousal in a man, however uncontrollable, it may seemingly overwhelming to the perpetrator (rapist).

The victim simply appealed to a rapist, which even a rapist may not be able to explain in exact words, victim need not show much of her skin or soft areas or by so called “provocative dressing”.

Harsh who is an IT professional says,” In western countries, the women dress more provocatively compared to India. In USA, during summertime, I have seen girls and women coming out in short skirts and knickers. But they are much safer than the Indian women. There is something seriously wrong with our men, culture or policing (may be, all) to have such a situation.”

According to NCRB figures there were 95 victims in the age group of 14-18 years, 56 among the age group of 10-14 years and 24 among those aged below 10 years. So, were these victims among the age group 10-14 and below 10 years wearing provocative clothes? Or were provoking anyone to rape them?

“Be it a western dress or Salwar suit, girls are being molested and raped irrespective of that. What about aged women or little girls? They can’t be blamed for being provocative.” says Neha Sethi, a student.

We have to broaden our minds to fight these dreaded crimes against women and girls. It is certainly not their fault and we should not force blames upon them rather than eliminating these crimes.

A Waiting Guitar

Around one and a half year back I got a Givson Cambridge guitar on my birthday. My brother gifted it to me because I used to crave for it and actually wanted to be a sort of rock star and wanted to give a solo guitar performance on stage just like those in the rock music shows.

I know many of you won’t believe it, especially people like kartikey who think I’m a Hitler (yes he even named me that)but trust me I really wanted to and still want to if given a chance.  But let me tell you before you start thinking that I can play a guitar, I don’t and I can’t. I don’t know even ‘A’ of how to play a guitar.

I looked around my place for a good teacher and posted on facebook so that my friends can help me in that department but unlucky me. I couldn’t find a good teacher. So that guitar is still waiting for that rock star performance and god knows for how long.

King Alcohol and its Prime minister

 

                           Alcohol is something that not only affects the person drinking it but also people around especially the family members, friends and relatives. It spoils ones relationship as alcohol takes over mind and controls it, filling it with all the shit (sorry for the word!!) in the world.

                        Most of it is due to the hallucination and the so called being high, which makes you think and believe in things that never existed. Like you will start thinking that everyone around you is against you and is going to harm you.

                        Having one or two drinks is fine but filling yourself neck deep in alcohol is dangerous not only for health but for all the relations you have around you. given below is a painting of the era of 1820 showing ill effects of alcohol on the person drinking it people around it and ultimately on the society.

The title of the painting is KING ALCOHOL AND ITS PRIME MINISTER!!!

Blinky Apple!!

olive oil v/s olive oyl

Don't Worry, Be Happy!!

Don't Worry, Be Happy!!

Today everyone is leading an individual and monotonous lifestyle. This individual-ness is making us more prone to mood disorders like depression. A mood disorder is a frequent or repeated disturbance of your normal mood that lasts long more than a couple of weeks. Difficult situations in life bring stress, frustration and disappointment. These are but normal reactions to the hardship that you may face in life every now and then. But being alone most of the time, leading a monotonous

 individual life increases this situation making you feel depressed.
                             Individuals with a major depressive episode or major depressive disorder are at increased risk for suicide. We hear that so many people are committing suicides every day. It is because of depression of some kind and that they cannot convey their feelings to anyone around them.  Mood disorders also affect people around you as well.
But one can overcome depression and even help others too. Seeking a counselor or a psychologist will help you to understand your situation better. Let everything hidden inside you to come out. Take proper medication if required and just follow your heart for a healthy body and mind:
• Writing blogs on internet about your feelings and inner turmoil can help you as you express your feelings to a large group and can even seek advice if you want. If you don’t want your identity to be revealed than write with a pen name or anonymously.
•  You can even keep a journal to write down your feelings. Whenever you feel sad, alone just write whatever that comes to your mind.
• Let your creative juices flow. Engage yourself in some creative work.
• You have any hobby? Anything you always wanted to do? Come ‘on this is the time; pick those dancing shoes, that guitar hiding under clothes, make a new poem, write a good story, climb those mountains, swim in that river, bungee jump from that bridge, scream out your heart  loudly while rafting. After doing any of this you will feel the difference yourself.
• Spend time with your friends. It’s okay if you don’t want to go out, call them up and invite them for a movie night or a pajama party and have a little get-together.
• Looks like you haven’t spend time on you from many days. Go to a spa, pamper yourself. You deserve it.

What if the teachers fail!!

India once upon a time a land of best educationists, scholars and the best education system, is now facing a time of crisis. In the Central Teacher Eligibility Test 2012, a shocking total of 93% aspirants failed to clear the test.

Of the overall 8, 61,231 registered aspirants around 76,004 could not appear in the test due to assembly elections in five states. From the rest who appeared only 55,422 barely managed to clear either paper 1 or paper 2 or both.

These poor results show that even the future teachers are not serious about studies. When these aspirants will further become teachers, what kind of education they will impart is beyond any doubt.

Today our education system is in a fail state. Present system only lays emphasis on marks and percentage, not on what kind of education is actually being imparted. The quality of teachers and education has gone down over the past few decades and is the most important factor behind deteriorating standards of school education in India.

“The problem is complicated because if an insincere person gets into the teaching field then the whole generation to follow has to pay the price”, says Sunaina, a B.ed student.

CTET is a test of eligibility does not guaranty a job as a teacher, as a result most of the aspirants appear the test casually which makes pass percentage low.

Sudhir kapoor, an MBA student, states “Government, both central and state should conduct examinations like Indian Civil Services and introduce Indian education services with one year of training with jobs guaranteed, just like private sectors than India can get better teachers and better educational environment.”

The Ministry of Human Resource and Development, worried about the result has asked the CBSE to analyse the results institution wise, so that they can improve on their teaching and training.

On the whole the most respected profession of teaching is losing its importance. Students prefer this profession after failing to qualify as an engineer, a doctor or any other desired profession. Being a teacher is their last resort.

What is the need of hour is to make amendment for a better result and education. Instead of having test like CTET, we should have tests that analyses a person’s ability for being a teacher and not the eligibility. What if a person is eligible for being a teacher but couldn’t handle the classroom environment and a student’s behaviour towards studies, he’s a failure again.

DIRTY PICTURE OF DELHI

                                                           National capital of India famous for food, architecture and politics is also famous for not being clean. Jasvinder Singh has been living in Delhi since 1987. He loves Delhi but the biggest thing that concerns him is People living in Delhi do not respect this city. Jasvinder is a Taxi driver at The Park Hotel and everyday he encounters people spitting or urinating on road.
Claire was born in Delhi. This is her first visit to the city as an adult after her parents moved to the US. Claire says Delhi is a beautiful city but not a very clean one. Seeing piles of garbage flooding the roads is not a very pleasant site.

                         Spitting on road might raise eyebrows, elsewhere, but not in Delhi. Whether educated or illiterate spitting paan is a common trend among residents of Delhi and almost every pavement can be seen with paan stains everywhere in Delhi.
We can see people urinating by the side of walls and bus-stands every now and then. It is also very inconvenient for the girls and women who confront these sightings every day. 
.People clean their houses but make their city dirty by throwing piles of garbage on roadside. Seeing stray dogs and cows chomping on these piles is an assault on the senses. We claim to be cleanest but when it comes to cleanliness of public places why do we forget our civic senses
Government started many drives like ‘Clean Delhi Green Delhi’. But all the efforts are going in vain without full support and cooperation of public. During preparation times of Common wealth games government of Delhi strictly warned the residents not to spit in public or urinate for the sake of Games but all the good manners ‘if there were any’ left along with athletes.
Mahatma Gandhi said ‘Cleanliness is Godliness’. He not only meant physical cleanliness but also the cleanliness of the surroundings where you live. Delhi is our home and it’s our duty to keep it clean. All of us have to do just our own bit.

Ethics in today's world!!!!!

Social Media Explained

Clash of the titans- ethics and the media

 In a world where journalists are taught ‘man bites dog’ is news, let’s take a minute to assess the conflicting values that constitute the black box of media ethics. Media ethics provide a process by which individual mistakes and excesses are best avoided without jeopardizing the ultimate objective of the fourth estate- to provide a healthy check on centre of power and maintain a free and enlightened society.
The importance and relevance of ethics in media stems from the fact that the common man places his trust in media for providing information, education and entertainment. He gets deeply and intimately affected by the media’s portrayals of events. His opinion on major issues is perception of peace, harmony and development or is action in leading a crusade for justice and deliverance are all molded to a large extent by the media. The freedom of the press is said to be inseparable from reasonable precincts are necessary to preserve this freedom from degenerating into a license to print and publish anything without restraint.
Ethical foundation is what gives media the strength and stature for a societal role. Where credibility is the principle criterion, as in the case of mass media, ethical practice and norms distinguish the rights from the wrongs. To be able to objectively analyze the issue, one has to appreciate the disparate nature of goals media is faced with. Ethical dilemmas emerge when goals conflict. The foundation stone of media that is ‘Truth’ itself may conflict with many other socially desirable values.
It’s time that the media should be recognized and accepted for what it is, nothing less and definitely nothing more. However sooner or later the public will grow out of such hype and sensation and in the long run the society will see through the news and content that result in some true value addition. Till then self censorship both on the part of the media and the audience will get us through the doldrums of the shifting paradigms of ethics.

CAPITAL OF CRIME

                                                    CAPITAL OF CRIME

In this city a women is raped every 18 hours and is molested every 14 hours. This is National Capital of India- Delhi, first city of India is now first city of crime. Delhi has completed its hundred years of being capital of India, but is this what we are expecting from our favorite city?
While traveling by foot, you are being molested; in DTC buses, you are being eve teased; in metro trains, you are being manhandled; in your own car you are being murdered. Doesn’t this prove that being a girl in this city is the biggest crime ever committed?
A girl cannot step outside her house with assurance that she won’t be molested today. Delhi’s chief minister Sheila Dixit says that all this happens with girls and women because they travel late at night seeking adventure. But surely all the girls will be curious to know, what Sheila Dixit has to say about Radhika Tanwar’s case. Was she traveling late at night or seeking adventure?
When the call-centre worker was raped in Delhi, the key question was not why the Police did not respond after her friend called within five minutes for help or what the PCR van parked nearby was doing. It was: what was she doing walking in an unsafe area at 2 in the night?
Rape, always the dark side of the moon, has acquired a far more vicious dimension now, when it is used to punish urban women, as the gap between the aspiration of the have-nots and the reality of the haves widens. When confronted with it in flesh, their first instinct appears to be to acquire, and when that fails, they do so by force. It is a pattern repeated especially when faced with the outsider-it could be the North-eastern woman or even the Swiss diplomat raped.
As per the NCRB report “Crime in India-2010”, the total number of reported crimes against women has increased by around 30 percent during last four years from 164765 cases in 2006 to 213585 cases in 2010. The Crimes targeted against women increased from 8.2 percent to 9.6 percent, and Delhi has topped making it the most unsafe city in India. According to Delhi police commissioner B.K. Gupta, the ratio of rape cases is increasing every year.
As a female transcends the old boundaries to fulfil her dreams, a question arises over her dignity. Are Indian males so conservative, narrow minded that they can’t see some female to achieve success in her profession? Why they always raise eyebrows over some successful independent female?
Jessica Valenti stated in her book, The Purity Myth,” Women don’t get raped because they were drinking or took drugs. Women do not get raped because they weren’t careful enough. Women get raped because ‘Someone raped them’”.  Certainly what a girl do, wears or what lifestyle she acquires has nothing to do with being raped or molested. Her lifestyle or attire doesn’t give permission or invite anybody to do anything with her or to attack her dignity.

An over bridge story

                                        An over bridge story
                                                
                                                                                                                                                            
“Why everyone is in such hurry?”
 It is the only question which emerges in Tania’s mind everyday while waiting for her best friend on Satya Niketan over bridge.
This over bridge was really famous last year, when B.A first year student Radhika Tanwar was murdered here. People used to come and stand around the place from where blood stained tile was removed.
Satya Niketan over bridge is just like any other in Delhi. Bluish gray colored railings running parallel to each other, 3 by 3 blocked square tiled floor connecting two sides of road. Upper part of railing covered with blackish yellowish oily dust. Lower part adorned with paan and gutkha lovers’ creativity.
People, mostly college youth uses escalators to go upstairs. But some of them are talented enough to go down in the upward moving escalator. Sensible public uses long sloping alleys to go down. Overhead roof is made out of fiber glass, now tinted with dust.
Cars and bikes are always running beneath this huge steel and concrete structure. Running to run their owners lives. There is continuous buzzing of cars passing underneath the bridge and buses moving towards Bus stand. This is the everyday scene of satya Niketan, 24*7 without any change.
Satya Niketan over bridge is also a site for young love birds as well. Some of them can be seen waiting for their loved ones during morning and afternoon hustle bustle.
This famous bridge is used for business purpose too. On one side, one can find a tattoo wala and a mehndi wali, everyday. They are probably from Rajasthan as the man has big pointed moustache and earrings in both ears. The woman mostly wears Rajasthani ghagra and choli, silver necklace, earrings and a mangtika. Other side of foot over bridge is occupied by an old, white haired Palmist. He looks quite serious about his job in those spectacles he wears.
Recently another business started here. These two women are also from Rajasthan. Both of them sit on the floor of over bridge with a huge pile of beads and strings. Beads of different colors and sizes, with alphabets written on them. Bracelets made out of weaving these beads and string was a huge draw with youngsters.
This is the Satya Niketan over bridge. Build out of steel and concrete yet full of life. Standing on black road but surrounded by green trees. A place to stand, wait, cry, laugh, think and LIVE.

“SAINT OF THE GUTTERS”

                                       “SAINT OF THE GUTTERS”

Young Agnes was fascinated by stories of the lives of missionaries and their service in Bengal. Influenced by their devotion she left her home at the age of 18 to work as missionary. She witnessed men and women, even young children, dying in the streets, rejected by local hospitals.
She felt the pain of their suffering and decided to dedicate the rest of her life to serve the poorest of the poor. With a few helpers, she found a home for the dying, so that she could care for the poor and lonely homeless people, regardless of whether they were dying of AIDS or Leprosy. After over 50 years of selfless devotion for helping the poor, she earned the name “Saint of the Gutters”.
Clad in white sari with a blue border, she became a symbol of hope to many-
the aged, the destitute, the unemployed, the diseased, the terminally ill and those abandoned by their family. This was Mother Teresa.
When people asked her what made her happy, she always said that the greatest joy was to care for the poor in the last stretch of their earthly journey, so that they were able to die in peace and with dignity.
Governments around the world have been trying to remove poverty since ages. Pick up a person from the street. If he is hungry, give him a plate of rice, a piece of bread, and be satisfied. You have removed that hunger. But a person that is shut out, that feels unwanted, unloved, terrified, the person that has been thrown out from the society.
Mother Teresa loved these unwanted and unloved.
“The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread”
-Mother Teresa